The Invisible Forces Playing With Your Parenting Journey

In our last article, we explored the hidden trap of the fight mentality—that exhausting cycle where parents find themselves trapped in a constant state of stress, battling against systems that weren’t designed for their child’s needs.

But here’s the truth: fighting keeps you locked in resistance, and resistance keeps you stuck.

It feels like everything's against you, because that's true in a way - there are a lot of things working against you that are invisible. What if you could turn those forces to your favour instead?

That's where the Universal Laws come in.

At their core, these laws govern everything around us—the flow of energy, the patterns of life, and yes, even how we experience parenting. Whether we realize it or not, they’re always at play, shaping our experiences based on the energy we bring to them. And when we learn how to work with them rather than against them, we can begin to shift from struggle to peace, from resistance to flow.

This article will introduce five of the Universal Laws and how they directly impact your parenting experience. By understanding and applying these principles, you can begin to release the fight mentality and step into a more empowered, peaceful, and connected approach to raising your child.

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Parenting a neurodiverse child feels at times like you’re navigating an unpredictable storm. No matter how much love and effort you pour into supporting your child, it can feel like you’re constantly met with obstacles—misunderstandings from others, lack of support, and systems that don’t include or meet your child’s needs.

But what if there was another way to approach this journey? One that doesn’t drain your energy but helps you create more peace, clarity, and strength?

That’s where the Universal Laws come in. These aren’t rules to follow but natural principles that shape the flow of energy in our lives. Whether we’re conscious of them or not, they’re always at work in the background, influencing how we experience parenting, advocacy, and even our child’s development.

When we begin to understand these laws, we naturally increase our ability to shift the way we see and experience challenges. Instead of feeling like we have to push against everything, we start to recognize opportunities, find support in unexpected places, and create more moments of connection with our children.

If you’ve been stuck in fight mode, it’s not because you chose to be there—it’s because the world often pushes parents of neurodiverse children into this space. The need to advocate, to explain, to demand what should already be given is exhausting.

However, the Universal Laws offer a different perspective. They remind us that where our attention goes, our energy flows.

This doesn’t mean you need to ignore the very real struggles that come with parenting a neurodiverse child. I can tell you from personal experience, that is next to impossible. It simply means that by shifting some of our focus away from the constant resistance and toward the possibilities for support, understanding, and peace, we create the conditions for change.

Instead of carrying the weight of an uphill battle alone, we can begin working with the natural flow of energy—allowing ourselves to step into advocacy from a place of strength, not struggle. As we shift our perspective and energy signature, we often find that the world starts responding differently too.

In the next section, we’ll explore some of the most impactful Universal Laws and how they can help transform your parenting experience in a way that feels more aligned, hopeful, and empowering.

Have you ever walked into a room and immediately sensed tension, even before anyone spoke?

Or have you instantly 'clicked with someone' without knowing why? That instant recognition is the Law of Vibration in action.

At its core, everything in the universe is energy, including you, your child, and even your thoughts and emotions.

Quantum physics confirms this: at a subatomic level, all matter is made up of vibrating energy. What we perceive as “solid” is in reality an intricate dance of particles constantly in motion, resonating at different frequencies.

Neuroscientific research also supports this idea. Studies show that our emotions produce measurable energetic changes in the body. Feelings like love and gratitude create coherent, stable frequencies, while stress and frustration generate chaotic, disordered frequencies. You can feel the difference in the energy yourself if you pay attention to your stomach. When you're happy, grateful or loving, your stomach will not bother you, but as soon as the tension rises, if you pay attention, you will notice your stomach knot up.

This shows how these vibrations influence not only our well-being but also how we interact with the physical world around us.

As parents, our energetic state affects how we show up for our children.

When we’re stressed, overwhelmed, or stuck in fight mode, our nervous system sends out signals of tension and urgency.

This shift isn’t about ignoring challenges—it’s about being intentional with the energy we bring into each moment.

There's three main ways to harness the Law of Vibration in your parenting journey.

As you implement these little changes, you may not see a shift straight away, but give it time. Once you've built momentum with consistent attention to the Law of Vibration, you will charge it with positive energy to work for you.

1. Check in with your energy.

Throughout the day, pause and ask yourself, “What frequency am I operating at right now?” Are you tense, frustrated, or exhausted? Or are you feeling calm, steady, or even hopeful?

2. Use small shifts to recalibrate.

Science shows that breathing exercises, music, and even changing posture can shift our energetic state. If you feel stuck in stress mode, take a slow deep breath, listen to calming sounds, or step outside for fresh air.

3. Teach your child to recognise energy shifts.

Many neurodiverse children are deeply attuned to emotional frequencies. Help them label their own states by saying, “I can feel that things are feeling a bit stormy right now. Let’s take a deep breath together.” This builds emotional awareness and self-regulation skills.

By becoming aware of the Law of Vibration, we can start moving out of survival mode and into a more intentional and connected parenting experience. It’s not about suppressing emotions—it’s about learning to shift our energy in ways that support both us and our children.

This brings us to the next Universal Law that works incredibly closely with the Law of Vibration, and that's the Law of Attraction.

Your brain has something called the Reticular Activating System (RAS), which filters the world around you, prioritizing information based on what you focus on the most.

Have you ever learned a new word and suddenly heard it everywhere? That’s your RAS at work—and it does the same thing with your parenting experience. If your mind is constantly tuned into struggles, judgment, and exhaustion, your brain will start highlighting more of those moments. But if you begin shifting your focus toward possibilities, strengths, and support, you’ll start noticing more opportunities, more solutions, and more moments of peace.

I know you’re familiar with how much of your time and energy goes into advocating, explaining, and making sure your child gets the support they need. It’s exhausting.

And when you’re in that constant fight mode, it’s easy to expect every interaction—with teachers, doctors, even family—to be another battle.

I know because I’ve been there. You know what I'm talking about - it's the drop of your stomach when you see school's caller ID showing up on your phone again! I personally got to the point where it would be once a day calls, and am so grateful that I discovered how to work with the L.O.A!

But what if we changed the energy we bring into those situations?

Imagine two parents heading into a school meeting.

Parent A is mentally bracing for a fight. Their shoulders are tense, their voice is sharp, and they’re emotionally coiled, ready to spring and prove their child’s needs.

Parent B walks in feeling calm but firm, believing that the school wants to help their child—even if they don’t fully understand yet. They focus on solutions, collaboration, and possibility.

Same meeting. Different Energy. Who do you think gets a better response?

This isn’t about ignoring challenges or pretending everything is fine—it’s about shifting the energy we bring into our parenting so that we’re leading from strength, not from exhaustion. By changing the energy, you immediately bring a different signature and feeling to the situation and people are a lot more receptive to what you are saying.

Applying the Law of Attraction to your parenting journey is something that you will need to start by making a concerted effort, but over time, it naturally becomes second nature to reflect on your thoughts.

Personally, I found that the quiet moments either early in the morning or before you drift off to sleep as a good time for reflection.

All you need to do is find a time when you have a spare moment to think (I know that’s easier said than done, right!) but trust me, you’ll reap the benefits of a calmer mind. Reflect on the points below to see what your connection to the Law of Attraction is and to shift it in a more positive direction.

1. Check your default thoughts.

What’s the story you tell yourself most often about your parenting journey? Are you expecting resistance, or are you open to ease?

2. Reframe the hard moments.

Instead of thinking, "Why does my child always struggle with this?" try "How can I support them in a way that honors their strengths?"

3. Start your day with an intention.

Before the chaos begins, take a breath and set a simple intention: “Today, I choose to see possibilities.” You don’t have to force a positive attitude—just open the door to something different.

4. Celebrate the small shifts.

If bedtime was even slightly calmer than yesterday, that’s a win. When we acknowledge progress, our brain starts looking for more of it.

This is where The Law of Attraction meets practical change. By shifting our focus, we break free from the shackles of the fight mentality and start creating an easier path forward—for us and our kids.

So let's see how the small shifts we make with the Law of Attraction can make a big impact by working with the next Universal Law: The Law of Cause and Effect.

If you've ever felt like no matter how hard you try, you keep running into the same struggles—meltdowns, school battles, misunderstandings—it might feel like you're stuck in an endless loop. But what if I told you that the small shifts in your energy (Law of Vibration), focus (Law of Attraction) and actions could start changing everything?

That’s where The Law of Cause and Effect comes in.

This law states that every action has a reaction—that what we put out into the world (through our energy, words, and behaviors) creates a ripple effect.

It’s not punishment or karma—it’s simply how energy moves. And in parenting, the effects of our actions and emotions are especially powerful because our children absorb everything.

This isn’t just a spiritual principle—science confirms it too.

Neuroscientist Dr. Lisa Feldman Barrett’s research on emotions shows that our brains are predictive, not reactive. This means that our emotional states and behaviors don’t just respond to the present moment—they’re shaped by patterns we’ve built over time.

When parents are chronically stressed, reactive, or expecting conflict, their nervous system stays in a heightened state.

This has two big effects:

1. Your child's brain starts mirroring your stress.

Research in child development confirms that kids, especially neurodiverse ones, are highly attuned to their parents’ facial expressions, tone of voice, and body language. They take cues from us to determine whether the world is safe or overwhelming

2. Your brain reinforces the struggle.

The more we expect difficulties, the more our Reticular Activating System (RAS) filters information to support that belief. This means we notice more of the struggle and miss opportunities for positive shifts.

But the good news? The brain is neuroplastic, meaning it can change. Small, intentional shifts in our reactions, thoughts, and behaviors create new neural pathways, helping us and by extension, our children build calmer, more supportive responses over time.

When raising a neurodiverse child, your energy is their anchor. They pick up on your stress, your frustration, your exhaustion—and often, they reflect it back.

The fight mentality keeps many parents unknowingly caught in a loop of reaction and struggle, where every challenge feels like proof that nothing is getting better. But when we start responding praoctively instead of reacting, we shift the entire dynamic in our home.

Understanding the Law of Cause and Effect can profoundly transform your parenting approach.

This universal principle teaches that every action has a corresponding reaction, emphasizing the importance of mindful decision-making. By recognizing how your responses influence your child's behavior and emotional regulation, you can foster a more positive and nurturing environment.

Let's explore practical steps to apply this law in your daily interactions.

1. Pause before you react.

If you feel tension rising, take one deep breath before responding. That small pause can interrupt the reaction loop and change the direction of the interaction.

2. Be mindful of your language.

The way we speak about challenges shapes how we experience them. Instead of saying "My child never listens," try "We’re working on communication together."

3. Focus on what you CAN control.

You can’t control how a teacher reacts, but you can control how you present information. You can’t control meltdowns, but you can control how you regulate your own energy during them.

4. Create small, intentional habits.

Even tiny shifts—starting the day with an affirmation, taking 5 minutes for yourself, or responding to challenges with curiosity instead of frustration—can create a powerful ripple effect over time.

The Law of Cause and Effect isn’t about perfection—it’s about recognizing the power in your small, daily choices. Those small, daily choices may seem insignificant but they are literally planting the seeds for the next period of growth in your life. If this seems like some trite statement, then reading the next section on The Law of Rhythm, will make everything make sense to you.

Ever feel like just when things start getting better, a meltdown, school call, or unexpected challenge throws everything off balance?

It’s easy to feel like progress is constantly slipping through your fingers. But what if these ups and downs weren’t a sign that you're failing—but proof that you're moving forward?

This isn’t just some hippy mumbo jumbo — you can see it in the change of the seasons , the ebb and flow of tides, and the cycles of the moon. As you can see there's rhythm at play everywhere, including the biological rhythms in our own bodies.

The rhythms at play affecting you and your child, physically and neurologically include:

1. Circadian Rhythms and Hormonal Cycles.

Our bodies function on predictable cycles of sleep, energy, and mood. For example, cortisol (the stress hormone) naturally rises in the morning and falls at night—unless chronic stress disrupts it.

2. Neuroplasticity and Emotional Cycles.

The brain adapts and rewires itself based on experiences (perception of events that have occurred) over time. Emotional ups and downs aren’t regression—they’re part of the learning and adjustment process.

3. Growth and Rest Cycles.

In child development, kids don’t grow steadily in a straight line. They go through spurts and plateaus, just like their emotional and social growth. This is happening with you too, throughout your journey as a parent.

Even though you may not be aware of it, the energy in your body and spirit is perpetually in motion and working it's way to the rhythmic beat of your life.

Ever had a week where your child seems to be thriving—better communication, fewer meltdowns—only to have the next week filled with setbacks? It’s frustrating, right?

But here’s the truth: This isn’t failure. It’s part of the cycle of progress.

Understanding The Law of Rhythm means recognizing that regression often happens right before a breakthrough. Instead of panicking when things feel hard, we can start asking:

The Law of Rhythm teaches us that life is a series of cycles, much like the changing seasons.

Recognizing these natural rhythms can help us navigate the highs and lows of parenting with greater ease. By understanding and embracing these cycles, we can maintain balance and foster resilience in our families. Let's explore practical ways to align with this law in your parenting journey.

1. Expect the Ebb and Flow.

Just like waves in the ocean, there will be times of calm and times of challenge. Knowing this prevents unnecessary panic when hard moments happen.

2. Track Patterns.

Keep a journal of your child’s growth cycles. Many parents find that after a particularly hard phase, their child gains a new skill.

3. Work With, Not Against, the Cycles.

If you notice patterns of stress, meltdowns, or anxiety, adjust your environment and routines to support the natural rhythm instead of fighting against it.

4. Find Your Personal Rhythms.

Your energy as a parent also moves in cycles. Notice when you feel more patient and when you need extra rest and support.

Understanding The Law of Rhythm helps us trust the process instead of fearing setbacks. When we stop expecting perfection and start embracing the natural cycles of growth, parenting becomes less about control and more about flow.

Just as the Law of Rhythm teaches us to embrace life's natural cycles, our final law that we are learning about - the Law of Polarity reminds us that everything has its opposite—light and dark, joy and sorrow, success and failure. Let's dig into it now.

Have you ever noticed that your hardest parenting moments often lead to the biggest growth—either for your child or for you?

One moment, you feel like everything is falling apart. The next, your child does something incredible—shows empathy, self-regulates, or reaches a milestone you weren’t sure they ever would.

It almost feels like… the struggle was part of the breakthrough.

This isn’t just another spiritual principle—it’s deeply reflected in psychology and neuroscience:

1. Neuroplasticity and Contrast Learning.

The brain strengthens connections through contrast. Kids (and adults!) often learn best when experiencing opposites—trial and error, struggle and reward.

2. Emotional Regulation and Dual Awareness.

Growth happens when we can hold both struggle and progress at the same time. Teaching children emotional regulation requires helping them recognize that big feelings and calm can coexist.

3. Resilience Research.

Studies on post-traumatic growth show that people who experience struggle often emerge with greater emotional depth, strength, and wisdom—not because of suffering, but because of how they moved through it.

Recognising that polarity shows up in everything is a reminder that you and your child are constantly growing as individuals. Even if you can't see it, the Polar opposite of what you are experiencing exists at an energetic level.

Think of a time when your child had a huge meltdown or a major setback. At that moment, it felt overwhelming, frustrating—maybe even hopeless.

But then, days or weeks later, something shifted. Maybe they found words for their frustration. Maybe they started using a new coping skill. The moment of struggle wasn’t a sign of failure—it was a sign of growth in motion.

Parenting a neurodiverse child comes with deep challenges. But those challenges also create deep strength.

The fight mentality keeps us stuck in the struggle side of the polarity—only seeing what’s hard, unfair, and exhausting. But when we shift our focus, we start noticing the opposite side—the resilience, the creativity, the small wins that signal something bigger emerging.

I appreciate that it may feel impossible to even consider the opposite to your current situation at the moment, but just having a post it note with these prompts witten on it , in your purse or pocket can help you implement these steps when you need them the most.

1. Reframe Struggles as Growth in Progress

When you face a hard moment, ask yourself: What opposite possibility might be forming right now?

2. Practice "Dual Awareness"

Instead of seeing a meltdown as just chaos, look for the skill your child is trying to build—self-expression, boundary-setting, or emotional processing.

3. Celebrate Both Ends of the Spectrum

Struggles don’t erase progress. They are a part of it. Start celebrating both—the hard moments and the breakthroughs that follow.

4. Use Language That Acknowledges Both Sides

Instead of saying "This is impossible," try "This is really hard right now, but it won’t always feel this way."

The struggle isn’t where the story ends—it’s where transformation begins.

The Law of Polarity reminds us that growth is always unfolding, even when it’s hard to see. By shifting our perspective, we can stop feeling stuck in hardship and start recognizing the breakthroughs that are already taking shape.

Just as you didn’t get trapped in the Fight Mentality overnight, your momentum will gradually shift to something more peaceful and aligned as you work with these forces, not against them.

By choosing to work with the Universal Laws, you empower yourself to create momentum that works in your favor, rather than against you.

We’ve covered the key universal laws that shape your parenting journey—Vibration, Attraction, Cause & Effect, Rhythm, and Polarity. Understanding them is just the beginning. The real transformation happens when you apply them to your life every day.

That’s why we’re taking this conversation beyond the blog and onto YouTube!

I’m creating a series of bite-sized, faceless videos that will guide you through each universal law, helping you spot where they show up in your life and how to work with them.

🎥 The first video in the series is: "How the Law of Vibration Shapes Your Parenting Journey"

In this video, you’ll learn:

✨ How your emotions and energy impact your child’s experience.

✨ The science behind vibration and its influence on behavior.

✨ A simple practice to help you shift into a calmer, more aligned state as a parent.

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